On Friends and what they say

We’re all human. We’re all flawed; some of us more than the others. And we do not like having our flaws pointed out. It’s only natural… we know where we lack and it’s not a nice feeling having people point it out.

But sometimes, we need to have our shortcomings pointed out. And that is where true friends step in. We feel friends are those who uplift us when we’re down… encouraging us when we feel like shit. Yes, that is all true. But sometimes, the truest encouragement is not the kind words saying we’ll get our bearings, but rather the well-meaning kick in the back asking us to get our shit together. Now, it may seem harsh; even evil at times. But having been through depression at a point in my life, I’ll tell you this – that works wonders. Or rather, it should.

I had a friend give me the metaphorical kick when I was spending way too much money on things I didn’t need… heck, I would be broke a week within payday all because I had to go to this store and buy a feathered hair clip that I wouldn’t even wear! It was harsh… but I knew I needed it. And I can’t thank him enough for it. Yeah, at the moment, I felt it was unfair that he was being all bossy and what not… telling me how I should manage my finances. I thought, who gave him the right?! But now, I realize, him being my friend gave him the absolute right to do just what he did.

He didn’t mince words when he told me I was being irresponsible. I was. And it smarted because I knew he was true. And though I did sulk hearing that, I never dwelt on the hurt. I decided to see things from his perspective and I knew he was right. And he… he was a person who had been through some of the worst trials Life could throw at a person… and that too at a very young age. At a time when others were all going to college and hanging out with friends, my friend, he worked 2 jobs back to back while attending college and after graduation, went out and worked 2 shifts, just so he could clear off the debt incurred to treat his dying father.

I understood he knew what he was talking about. He is street smart in ways I wasn’t. And if I am who I am, able to hold my own in a fight or in a crisis, it’s because of what I’ve learnt from him.

So, the next time your best friend says something you think is mean, just pause… it could be that they have a point. Sometimes, the best way to get us on our feet is a good kick in the ass!

Life's lessons

Hello there!

August is finally here and the days have begun to get a little cooler! (Thank God for that!)

And I've been bursting to tell the world exactly how I've been faring!
What's that? You don't care? Oh well, don't let the back button hit you in the smacker when you leave! Aaaaaahahahahaha!!!!

Okay...for those of you who've decided to stick around and read on, here's what's been happening.

1. I've finally decided to put my foot down and show a "few people" that I am not going to be taken for a ride!
2. I've learnt that walking away does not mean you're weak. Sometimes, you need more courage and mental strength to walk away than to just let things be!
3. I'm in a job I love! And I am surrounded by people who wish me well!
4. I've become stronger. Yep! This is in direct correlation with point no. 2. And I've changed... in subtle ways that people who've known me before can feel. They say that blind, trusting innocence in me is not there anymore... that I've become a bit harder. Yes. I have. It would be surprising and altogether impossible not to change after going through the cesspool of ordeals that I was made to go through. But just so everyone knows, I still possess a heart and soul. And I trust people. Just that, before, I used to feel hurt when that trust was broken and wouldn't say a word. But now, I'm becoming the woman who makes the Devil groan that I'm up for another day! Yes... no more bullshit! And definitely no more hurt!!
5. I've gotten a dog!!! YES! I HAVE!!!! She's an adorable little thing that loves me so very much that both of us suffer from separation anxiety sometimes, when we don't see each other. She's at my place of work. But I get to take her home when I leave that job for another one!
6. I've learnt to love myself. Yep... how can you expect someone to love something you don't? And that should include yourself! I am not perfect... heck, I'm a mess at times! But this is me. And this is how I'll always be. I've realized that I cannot be what anyone else wants me to be and be happy at the same time. So, here's to being myself and the joys that it brings!!

That's all that I can think of right now! Do you have things you've learnt along life?